tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-44047758183787916852024-02-19T08:57:53.684+05:30Lost - Part III see you, I feel youRanjith Kapugehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04068948728783359004noreply@blogger.comBlogger19125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4404775818378791685.post-64710737110254322082013-07-12T10:22:00.000+05:302013-07-12T10:22:13.542+05:30Let’s re-think<div>
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“A book of verse, a glass of wine and thou beside me sitting in the wilderness and wilderness were paradise enow…” go the words of the poet Omar Khayyam in his “Rubaiyat”.<br /> <br />“What does happiness mean to you?” asked the professor from his students.<br /> <br />The University students giggled. Most of them had boyfriends or girlfriends and felt that life was complete. So did they want a book for further reading? Or a glass of wine?<br /> <br />“I want to learn more about life from books and lectures but I don’t need wine or alcohol in any form.” opined Mallika.<br /> <br />“Why not?”asked the teacher.<br /> <br />“I feel that strong drinks cloud the intellect and at best are an opiate. You can also become addicted to liquor.” replied Mallika.<br /> <br />“But what about having a jolly good time after drinks?” chimed in Hiran.<br /> <br />“That is a preconceived mindset. If you are in good company, you can have fun even while drinking water or a fruit juice. You can sing and dance and enjoy yourself.” said Mallika.<br /> <br />“My boyfriend and I sit under the big tree in Peradeniya and we are happy. Sometimes, we read from books and poetry is one of our preferences.” commented Shalini.<br /> <br />“I think happiness means different things at different stages of life. Jith broke up with his long-time girlfriend and now he says that he is content to be a loner! He says that lovers make demands and he is now happy that he is no longer answerable to anyone.” said Hiran.<br /> <br />“So Omar Khayyam is not always right. But I agree with him that one must have someone to love, not necessarily a romantic love. There are men who are content with their mothers making them a cup of tea. There are women who are happy in the company of other women and who are not necessarily lesbians.” said Shalini.<br /> <br />Let’s re-think what we mean by happiness.<br /> <br />By Sirohmi<br />See more at: http://life.dailymirror.lk/article/5426/lets-re-think#sthash.fKlZGZyp.dpufRanjith Kapugehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04068948728783359004noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4404775818378791685.post-45827693740921599002013-05-24T23:15:00.000+05:302013-05-24T23:15:05.425+05:30101 Timeless Lessons Life Teaches<div style="background-color: white; color: #444444; font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', Times, serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 23.796875px; margin-bottom: 15px; padding: 0px; text-align: justify;">
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What has life taught you? Think about all the things you would love to tell yourself if you could travel back in time to give your younger self some advice about life.</div>
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This is what our sister site, <a href="http://everydaylifelessons.com/" style="color: #1c9bdc; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; text-decoration: none;"><em style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px;">Everyday Life Lessons</em></a>, is all about. Here’s a fresh sample of our favorite life lessons that were recently published on the site:</div>
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<li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px; text-align: justify;">What you do today is important because you are exchanging a day of your life for it.</li>
<li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px; text-align: justify;">In life, you usually get what you ask for, but it rarely comes in the package you think it’s supposed to come in.</li>
<li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px; text-align: justify;">Never let one bad day make you feel like you have a bad life.</li>
<li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px; text-align: justify;">Just because today is a terrible day doesn’t mean tomorrow won’t be the best day of your life. You just got to get there.</li>
<li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px; text-align: justify;">Tell the truth, or eventually someone will tell it for you. <em style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px;">Read <a href="http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1878424319/ref=as_li_tf_tl?ie=UTF8&tag=marandang-20&linkCode=as2&camp=1789&creative=9325&creativeASIN=1878424319" style="color: #1c9bdc; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; text-decoration: none;">The Four Agreements</a><img border="0" height="1" src="http://www.assoc-amazon.com/e/ir?t=marandang-20&l=as2&o=1&a=1878424319" style="border: medium none !important; margin: 0px !important; padding: 0px;" width="1" />.</em></li>
<li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px; text-align: justify;">A mistake is an accident. Cheating and lying are not mistakes. They are intentional choices.</li>
<li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px; text-align: justify;">Sometimes the person you want most is the person you’re better off without.</li>
<li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px; text-align: justify;">Some people cannot stand that you’re moving on with your life, and so they will try to drag your past to catch up with you. Do not help them by acknowledging their behavior. Keep moving forward.</li>
<li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px; text-align: justify;">Surround yourself with positive people who are going to push you toward greatness. Eliminate those who are trying to keep you from it.</li>
<li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px; text-align: justify;">Don’t let something that doesn’t matter cause you to lose something that<span id="more-445" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px;"></span>does.</li>
<li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px; text-align: justify;">Sometimes people aren’t who they seem to be, and sometimes people are so much more than you originally thought.</li>
<li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px; text-align: justify;">Loving someone isn’t just about saying it every day, it’s showing it every day in every way.</li>
<li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px; text-align: justify;">Maturity is not when we start speaking about big things, it’s when we start understanding the small things.</li>
<li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px; text-align: justify;">Of all the things that can be stolen from you – your possessions, your youth, your health, your words, your rights – what no one can ever take from you is your freedom to choose what you will believe in, and who and what your heart will love.</li>
<li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px; text-align: justify;">When you can forgive yourself and others and stop the imprisonment, you’re creating the love of your life.</li>
<li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px; text-align: justify;">Not forgiving is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die.</li>
<li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px; text-align: justify;">Age wrinkles the body. Quitting on your dreams wrinkles the soul.</li>
<li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px; text-align: justify;">The past can’t hurt you anymore – not unless you let it.</li>
<li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px; text-align: justify;">Holding on to the unchangeable past is a waste of energy, and serves no purpose in creating a better future.</li>
<li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px; text-align: justify;">Sometimes you’ve got to emotionally let go of the things that once meant a lot to you, so you can move beyond the past and the pain it brings you, and open the next chapter in your life.</li>
<li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px; text-align: justify;">The path to our destination is not always a straight one. We go down the wrong one, we get lost, and we turn back. But maybe it doesn’t matter which road we embark on. Maybe what matters is that we embark.</li>
<li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px; text-align: justify;">It doesn’t matter if you’ve failed or if you’ve been beaten. All that matters is that you learn something, get back up, and try again. Because winning is a good feeling, but winning when nobody else thought you could is an awesome feeling.</li>
<li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px; text-align: justify;">Knowing yourself is one thing, but truly believing and living as yourself is another. With so much social conditioning in our society, we sometimes forget who we are.</li>
<li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px; text-align: justify;">The most certain way to succeed is always to try just one more time.</li>
<li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px; text-align: justify;">You can grow stronger from the pain if you don’t let it destroy you.</li>
<li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px; text-align: justify;">Tell the negativity committee that meets inside your head to sit down and shut up.</li>
<li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px; text-align: justify;">The worst person to be around is the one who complains about everything and appreciates nothing. Avoid these people at all costs.</li>
<li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px; text-align: justify;">Live in such a way that if someone decided to speak badly of you, no one would believe it.</li>
<li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px; text-align: justify;">If you love someone, tell them. For hearts are often broken by words left unspoken.</li>
<li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px; text-align: justify;">Life is shorter than it often seems. Sometimes we are only given a few minutes to be with the ones we love, and hundreds of hours to spend thinking of them. Cherish the moments you have with your friends and family, because in one single second they can be taken away from you forever.</li>
<li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px; text-align: justify;">Things change, but the sun always rises the next day. The bad news: nothing is permanent. The good news: nothing is permanent.</li>
<li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px; text-align: justify;">It’s your road, and yours alone. Others may walk it with you, but <a href="http://www.marcandangel.com/2012/04/26/you-should-be-able-to-say-about-yourself/" style="color: #1c9bdc; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; text-decoration: none;" title="12 Things You Should Be Able to Say About Yourself">no one can walk it for you</a>.</li>
<li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px; text-align: justify;">We often accept the love we think we deserve.</li>
<li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px; text-align: justify;">If someone can’t accept you at your worst, they don’t deserve you at your best.</li>
<li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px; text-align: justify;">Without communication there is no relationship; without respect there is no love; without trust there’s no reason to continue.</li>
<li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px; text-align: justify;">If you leave someone at least tell them why, because knowing you’re not worth an explanation is even more painful than being abandoned.</li>
<li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px; text-align: justify;">Speak when you are very angry, and you’ll make the best speech you’ll ever regret.</li>
<li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px; text-align: justify;">Choose your words carefully – they can’t be taken back once you give them away. Harsh words are like bullets – they can leave deep wounds. And most of the time saying “sorry” is not enough to heal the wounds you leave.</li>
<li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px; text-align: justify;">Never make a big decision when you’re angry, and never make a big promise when you’re overjoyed.</li>
<li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px; text-align: justify;">It makes no sense to be second in someone’s life when you know you’re good enough to be first in someone else’s.<a name='more'></a></li>
<li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px; text-align: justify;">Take all the time you need to heal emotionally. Moving on doesn’t take a day; it takes lots of little steps to be able to break free of your broken self.</li>
<li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px; text-align: justify;">There is a difference between giving up and knowing when you have had enough.</li>
<li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px; text-align: justify;">Sometimes a break from your routine is the very thing you need.</li>
<li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px; text-align: justify;">When you find yourself cocooned in isolation and despair and cannot find your way out of the darkness, remember that this is similar to the place where caterpillars go to grow their wings.</li>
<li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px; text-align: justify;">Don’t count the number of friends you have; count the number of friends you can count on.</li>
<li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px; text-align: justify;">Sometimes, the people who are thousands of miles away from you, can make you feel better than people right beside you. That’s a sign of love and true friendship.</li>
<li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px; text-align: justify;">There are times when family are like strangers, and strangers are like family.</li>
<li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px; text-align: justify;">Life is not about making others happy. Life is about <a href="http://www.marcandangel.com/2011/08/30/12-things-happy-people-do-differently/" style="color: #1c9bdc; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; text-decoration: none;" title="12 Things Happy People Do Differently">sharing your happiness with others</a>.</li>
<li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px; text-align: justify;">When someone tells you, “You’ve changed,” it might simply be because you’ve stopped living your life their way.</li>
<li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px; text-align: justify;">If you’re lucky enough to have something that makes you different from everybody else, don’t ever change.</li>
<li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px; text-align: justify;">Know you worth! When you give yourself to someone who doesn’t respect you, you surrender pieces of your soul that you’ll never get back.</li>
<li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px; text-align: justify;">Imperfections are important, and so are mistakes. You get to be good by learning from your mistakes and you get to be real by being imperfect.</li>
<li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px; text-align: justify;">The best way to gain self-confidence is to do what you are afraid to do.</li>
<li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px; text-align: justify;">The mind is like a parachute. It doesn’t work unless it’s open.</li>
<li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px; text-align: justify;">The difference between who you are and who you want to be, is what you do.</li>
<li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px; text-align: justify;">If you really want to know where your destiny lies, look at where you apply your time.</li>
<li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px; text-align: justify;">You are where you are right now because of the actions you’ve taken, or maybe the inaction you’ve taken.</li>
<li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px; text-align: justify;">Be sure to taste your own words before you spit them out.</li>
<li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px; text-align: justify;">Let the constant growth and improvement in your own life keep you so busy that you have no time left to criticize others.</li>
<li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px; text-align: justify;">When you try to control everything, you enjoy nothing. Go for long walks. Indulge in great conversations. Question your assumptions. Love yourself. Pay attention to the moment. Be a little crazy. Count your blessings. Let go for a little while and just be.</li>
<li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px; text-align: justify;">Just as we cannot see that a seed has taken root until it breaks through the surface, we cannot always see our own growth happening until it does the same.</li>
<li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px; text-align: justify;">Don’t ever change just to impress someone. Change because it makes you a better person and leads you to a better future.</li>
<li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px; text-align: justify;">Feelings are like waves in the ocean; we can’t stop them from coming, but we can choose which ones to surf.</li>
<li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px; text-align: justify;">Being happy doesn’t always make us grateful, but being grateful will always make us happy.</li>
<li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px; text-align: justify;">Smile every chance you get; not because life has been easy, perfect, or exactly as you had anticipated, but because you choose to be happy and grateful for all the good things you do have and all the problems you know you don’t have.</li>
<li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px; text-align: justify;">It’s nice to have money and the things that money can buy, but it’s also important to make sure you haven’t lost track of the things that money can’t buy.</li>
<li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px; text-align: justify;">If you’re finding it hard to be grateful for anything, sit down close your eyes and take a long slow breath and be grateful for oxygen. Every breath you take is in sync with someone’s last.</li>
<li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px; text-align: justify;">Life is like a rainbow, you need both the sun and the rain to make its colors appear.</li>
<li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px; text-align: justify;">It’s better to be alone with dignity than in a relationship that requires you to sacrifice your self-respect.</li>
<li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px; text-align: justify;">Inner peace begins the moment you choose not to allow another person or event to control your emotions.</li>
<li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px; text-align: justify;">Moving on can mean that you’re making a choice to be happy rather than hurt. It doesn’t mean that you’re giving up. <em style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px;">Read <a href="http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1400077427/ref=as_li_tf_tl?ie=UTF8&tag=marandang-20&linkCode=as2&camp=1789&creative=9325&creativeASIN=1400077427" style="color: #1c9bdc; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; text-decoration: none;">Stumbling on Happiness</a><img border="0" height="1" src="http://www.assoc-amazon.com/e/ir?t=marandang-20&l=as2&o=1&a=1400077427" style="border: medium none !important; margin: 0px !important; padding: 0px;" width="1" />.</em></li>
<li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px; text-align: justify;">Decide to smile and make the best of it; it’s good for your health.</li>
<li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px; text-align: justify;">Don’t let loneliness drive you back into the arms of someone you know you don’t belong with.</li>
<li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px; text-align: justify;">Love is not about sex, going on fancy dates, or showing off. It’s about being with a person who makes you happy in a way nobody else can.</li>
<li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px; text-align: justify;">You don’t need a perfect one. You just need someone who you can trust – who shows you that you’re the only one.</li>
<li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px; text-align: justify;">There are people in your life whom you knowingly inspire simply by being you.</li>
<li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px; text-align: justify;">Everyone says love hurts, but that’s not true. Loneliness hurts. Rejection hurts. Losing someone hurts. Envy hurts. Everyone gets these things confused with love; but in reality love is the only thing in this world that covers up all pain and makes someone feel wonderful again. Love is the one thing in this world that does not hurt.</li>
<li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px; text-align: justify;"><a href="http://www.marcandangel.com/2012/04/23/15-things-real-friends-do-differently/" style="color: #1c9bdc; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; text-decoration: none;" title="15 Things Real Friends Do Differently">Real friendship</a> is a promise made in the heart. Silent. Unwritten. Unbreakable by distance. Unchangeable by time.</li>
<li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px; text-align: justify;">Good relationships are not just about the good times you share; it’s also about the obstacles you go through together, and the fact that you still say “I love you” in the end.</li>
<li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px; text-align: justify;">Do small things with huge amounts of love. You’ll see why.</li>
<li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px; text-align: justify;">Sometimes people don’t notice the things others do for them until they stop doing them.</li>
<li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px; text-align: justify;">Sometimes we expect more from others because we would be willing to do that much for them.</li>
<li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px; text-align: justify;">Look at yourself and remember, people in far worse situations have done far more difficult things than this.</li>
<li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px; text-align: justify;">The best thing that you can do in life is follow your intuition. Take risks. Don’t just make the safe and easy choices because you’re afraid of what might happen. If you do, nothing will ever happen.</li>
<li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px; text-align: justify;">Most of the time happiness doesn’t come from money or fame or power; it comes from good friends and family, and from the quiet nobility of leading a good life.</li>
<li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px; text-align: justify;">Lying is done with both words and silence.</li>
<li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px; text-align: justify;">When something bad happens you can either let it define you, let it destroy you, or you can let it strengthen you.</li>
<li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px; text-align: justify;">Don’t waste your time being upset about something you can’t change. Start again right now and do it better this time.</li>
<li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px; text-align: justify;">No relationship is ever a waste of time. If it didn’t bring you what you want, it taught you what you do NOT want.</li>
<li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px; text-align: justify;">You can’t always be agreeable. That’s how people take advantage of you. Sometimes you have to set boundaries.</li>
<li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px; text-align: justify;">The road to success is always under construction.</li>
<li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px; text-align: justify;">Not trying is failing.</li>
<li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px; text-align: justify;">Don’t be afraid of going slowly; be afraid of standing still forever.</li>
<li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px; text-align: justify;">The only time you should look back is to see how far you’ve come.</li>
<li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px; text-align: justify;">Stop wasting time regretting what you did a year ago. Start doing what you have to do now, so that in a year’s time you won’t regret what you did today. <em style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px;">Read <a href="http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0743269519/ref=as_li_tf_tl?ie=UTF8&tag=marandang-20&linkCode=as2&camp=1789&creative=9325&creativeASIN=0743269519" style="color: #1c9bdc; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; text-decoration: none;">The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People</a><img border="0" height="1" src="http://www.assoc-amazon.com/e/ir?t=marandang-20&l=as2&o=1&a=0743269519" style="border: medium none !important; margin: 0px !important; padding: 0px;" width="1" />.</em></li>
<li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px; text-align: justify;">It’s not how many times you get knocked down, it how many times you get back up.</li>
<li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px; text-align: justify;">Follow your heart regardless of what others tell you to do. At the end of the day it’s you that has to live with your decisions, not them.</li>
<li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px; text-align: justify;">One of the greatest freedoms is truly not caring what everyone else thinks of you.</li>
<li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px; text-align: justify;">The hardest part about growing is letting go of what you were used to, and moving on with something you’re not.</li>
<li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px; text-align: justify;">The best things happen when you least expect it. Just sit back and enjoy the ride.</li>
<li style="margin: 0px; padding: 3px 0px; text-align: justify;">Sometimes you have to stop worrying, wondering, and doubting. Have faith that things will work out, maybe not how you planned, but just how it’s meant to be.</li>
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Ranjith Kapugehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04068948728783359004noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4404775818378791685.post-61293141652552157982013-01-17T22:00:00.004+05:302013-01-17T22:02:48.435+05:30Mystery Facts: Women<div style="text-align: justify;">
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<span style="background-color: white; color: #434343; font-family: Gafata, Futura-Light, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; text-align: justify;">A woman is one of the greatest enigmas that presents itself to us in our lifetime here and centuries of living with the devil herself has done little but to confuse us more.</span><br />
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The countless theories and concepts that have been forwarded with regard to women remain abstract ideas with more exceptions than the rule itself.</div>
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It’s hard to prove a lot of things when it comes to the human psyche and even more so when it comes to the female one but it’s possible to establish the likelihood of a few facts on the subject of women with scientific proof to back it up.</div>
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<strong>Birth Control Pills Make Women Less Attractive</strong></div>
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Contrary to the heading, the pill doesn’t make the woman less attractive as per se, but a recent study on the subject has demonstrated that men perceive women to be most attractive during ovulation at which point the male sub conscious picks up on subtle cues in the woman’s physical attributes which reveal that she is fertile and hence ideal for procreation.</div>
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This evolutionary mechanism helps to determine that intercourse occurs at the best possible time to increase chances of bearing offspring. The problem is that the pill inhibits ovulation thus attaining its purpose.</div>
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The study found that strippers earned at a strip club earned an average tip of 70 dollars when they were ovulating, 50 dollars when they weren’t and 35 dollars when they were menstruating.</div>
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<strong>Birth Control Shuns Mr. Right</strong></div>
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Women are wired naturally to mate with males whose genetic makeup is different to their own as a mechanism to reduce abnormalities in their offspring, but for some reason the pill throws a wrench in this grand plan causing women to be attracted to men with similar genetic patterns.</div>
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The resulting issues are numerous and vary, aside from the obvious pitfall of increasing the risk for their offspring to be abnormal; it also causes the woman to lose attraction for the guy once she get off of the pill. The reason isn’t clearly known but it’s theorized that the pill affects women’s hormonal balances hence causing disruptions to their attraction mechanisms.</div>
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<strong>Orgasms Relieve Menstrual Cramps</strong></div>
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Tell your woman to out with the Ponstan and just do you. A good, regular sex life alleviates those horrible menstrual cramps that plague women monthly. According to a 2005 article in Redbook, studies have shown that the oxytocin and endorphins, natural pain killer of the body released during sex can increase your pain tolerance up to 70%.</div>
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That means lower pain before her period -- and believe it or not, even during childbirth. Says sex therapist, couples counselor and sex advice columnist Dr. Miro Gudelsky, “Orgasms are one of the best cures for PMS. The reason being that orgasms relieve swelling around the genitals.” </div>
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Men aren’t the only ones who need release from intercourse, it’s been found that women who also possess similar erectile tissue in their genitals can suffer from lack of release following arousal.</div>
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The engorged ovaries can cause discomfort if sufficient release isn’t provided. Even though women may not ejaculate during orgasm, the orgasm is equally important. </div>
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<strong>15% Of Women Can’t Get Off</strong></div>
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That’s right, 15% of women can’t orgasm through sex alone. The reason being that some women have pleasure centers focused on the Clitoris and hence requires focused stimulation in order to attain orgasm. A point to remember the next time you slave away in bed. </div>
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Ranjith Kapugehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04068948728783359004noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4404775818378791685.post-33060493441681380172012-12-14T22:57:00.005+05:302012-12-14T22:59:46.795+05:30Sexual problems women face<div style="text-align: justify;">
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Long considered a taboo subject, women’s sexuality is now openly discussed and portrayed on television, in magazines, and on the internet. Most importantly, women are becoming increasingly aware of their sexuality and their sexual health nowadays. Nevertheless, many young adults are still ignorant of important facts about sexuality and related studies have proved that despite awareness raising and exposure to television programs on sex, some young people, especially girls from very conservative backgrounds, still think that even kissing or touching can lead to pregnancy.The Nation asked Family Planning Association (FPA) Sri Lanka Medical Director Dr. Sumithra Tissera about the common sexual problems that women face.</div>
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Q. What sexual problems do women face?</div>
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Sexual problems or sexual dysfunction can be classified as:Loss of desire or libido: Inability to become aroused - insufficient vaginal lubrication, anxiety and inadequate stimulation.Lack of orgasm (anorgasmia): could be due to sexual inhibition, inexperience, lack of knowledge, guilt, anxiety, or past sexual trauma or abuse, certain medications and disease.Painful intercourse: could be due to vaginismus, endometriosis, pelvic lump, vaginitis, poor lubrication, sexually-transmitted infections, presence of scar tissue from previous surgery, (vaginismus - involuntary spasm of the muscles surrounding the vagina – due to fear, sexual phobia, previous traumatic or painful experience).</div>
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Q. What causes such problems?</div>
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There can be several causes such as personal wellbeing; relationship issues; male sexual problems; childbirth; menopause; surgery such as hysterectomy and oophorectomy; vaginal or pelvic pain - prior surgery; endometriosis; infections; bladder and pelvic support issues; medical issues such as cancer, heart disease, arthritis, diabetes, alcoholism; taking in anti-psychotics, anti-depressants, anti-hypertensives (beta blockers) and emotional factors such as stress, anxiety and depression.</div>
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Q. Are they the same for young and older women or do they change with age?</div>
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The causes for women’s sexual problems can vary with age. For example, sexual problems due to childbirth, relationship issues are mainly observed at young age while problems due to menopause (dryness of the vagina and loss of desire due to hormonal imbalances), medical issues, bladder and pelvic support issues are mainly seen at older age.</div>
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Q. What could be the reasons for pelvic disorders that cause pain during intercourse?</div>
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Having severe vaginal discharge with smell and itching can cause the vaginal area to be red and swollen making sexual intercourse painful. Also Pelvic Inflammatory Disease (PID) can cause pain during sex. Prominent pubic bone and a very thick hymen are also reasons that they may avoid sex just after marriage. All these can be solved by consulting relevant family doctor, or a gynecologist.</div>
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Q. Does hormonal imbalance interfere with sexual satisfaction?</div>
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Perimenopause and menopause surgeries that remove bilateral ovaries that secrete the sex hormones can result in vaginal dryness, causing painful sexual intercourse which may make women avoid sex completely.But this can be prevented by using a lubricant or an estrogen containing gel around the vaginal area or using Hormone Replacement Therapy (HRT). But before using any of them, consulting a gynecologist is advisable.</div>
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Q. Is pregnancy a cause for sexual dysfunction?</div>
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A lot of pregnant women worry about having sex thinking that it will harm the fetus. But this is not true. They can continue having sexual intercourse, but may sometimes need to change the positions so they can avoid pressing on the protruding abdomen.</div>
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Q. Do Non-Communicable Diseases (NCDs) like diabetes, hypertension, cancer and heart disease interfere with sexual activities?</div>
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Yes, they can interfere with sexual activity by reducing the desire. Cancer can cause discomfort and fatigue due to the disease as well as medication. Breast surgery for cancer results in changes in body image. Diabetes impairs arousal and ability to experience orgasm. Arthritis and heart disease may reduce the physical ability to engage in sex and psychiatric problems due to disease or medications can affect a person’s sexual relationships.</div>
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Q. What about medications?</div>
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Some medications also can reduce the sex drive and make the vagina dry thereby reducing the desire to have sexual contact (anti psychotics and anti depressants).</div>
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Q. How do Sexually-Transmitted Infections (STIs) affect a person’s sexual activities?</div>
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STIs can cause sexual problems due to discharge, small lesions and redness on the vaginal area. Women avoid intercourse when they have such conditions because of the pains they experience during the intercourse.</div>
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Q. How do male impotency and other problems in men during sex affect women?</div>
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Male sexual dysfunctions may also have some negative effects on women’s sex lives. In the case of premature ejaculation (ejaculating too early) the woman may feel unsatisfied. Some men due to their inability to get an erection may avoid having sex or postpone it daily where the women may also, after sometime, avoid sexual activities or may look to other men.</div>
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Q. What about attitudes to sex? Some women, because they are brought up in conservative households or due to bad experiences think sex is shameful or bad, your comments.</div>
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This is sometimes observed in relationships. Especially if women had a bad experience during their childhood, they would perceive sexual relationships negatively. They may also experience pain during sexual intercourse. Some such women get vaginismus and they do not allow their partners to have sex with them even after many years of marriage.</div>
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Q. How important is knowledge about sex in minimizing women’s sexual problems?</div>
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Just knowledge is not enough. They need to have accurate knowledge to understand sex and sexuality. They must know the difference between men and women not only physically, but also psychologically and the way they are aroused and way they act.</div>
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Q. what is the role of cultural beliefs about sex, especially with reference to Lankan and Asian women?</div>
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In Asian cultures, sex is seen as a taboo subject. The kids are not even taught the physical and psychological changes taking place in their body. Most start learning this after marriage or during a relationship. As this subject is not spoken about openly, particularly women are very shy even to talk about it with their partners. Specially what they like and dislike and what they want from a relationship as they feel speaking openly may brand them a woman with ‘bad characters’. This sometimes inhibits the woman even more in showing her desires.</div>
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Q. How can sexual problems be resolved?</div>
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For solving all sexual problems, medicine is not essential. Simple counseling and discussions between partners is enough to identify the problems and come up with solutions. There are doctors in Sri Lanka trained on psychosexual medicine as well as sexual health specialists and psychologists. If any women feel that she has a change in her sexual behavior or relationship, she should seek help soon rather than waiting till it escalates. </div>
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Q. What supports do Lankan women have by way of 1) accessing correct knowledge 2) counseling and any other? What role does the FPA play in these interventions?</div>
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There are many books written on relationships, sexuality and sexual behavior of men and women by eminent consultants and psychologists. They are available from many book shops. FPA Sri Lanka clinic - Centre for Family Health - provides consultations and referrals with people who need specialized care and counseling.</div>
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Q. Are they available to all and where can they be obtained?</div>
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These services are available for all women, sometimes even through their family physicians. But if they do need specialized care they may need to go and talk to a Consultant Psychiatrist in their own area.</div>
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Ranjith Kapugehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04068948728783359004noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4404775818378791685.post-50576630410579419082012-11-30T19:02:00.000+05:302012-11-30T19:04:10.193+05:30When it’s not the bed..<div style="text-align: justify;">
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It’s a given. Nothing beats the soft mattress, fluffy pillows and the fresh sheets when it comes to making love. But, when you can’t make it to the bedroom or there isn’t a bed available for immediate use or you simply prefer alternatives, there are those few ‘other’ places that’ll work just fine.</div>
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Here’s a list (drawn up by an anonymous female clan) that show where it’s still hot... without the fluffy pillows.</div>
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<b>The Car </b></div>
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“Oh yes! The car is very very hot. The titanic is proof for that. Windows rolled up, nothing but each other’s body heat to gloriously suffocate in. I’m unashamedly a back seat girl.” </div>
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“NOT in broad daylight. When it’s raining, on the grass, maybe little bit chilly. Really there’s something about the smell of wet grass, it has the shower effect. But in a more open air kind of way and yeah...the smell of wet grass.<br />
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“Flies aren’t the only ones who like walls you see. Being up against a wall, It’s so intense. Everyone should try it.”</div>
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“Yes I know it’s common. But really, my body is super sensitive when I’m having a shower (and he knows that). I think our shower area being a square cubicle with glass doors helps as well. See it’s convenient: we get cleaned AND we get our morning kick before our coffee."</div>
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“Ok besides the occasional sand in certain areas (place a small towel for help) this is my ultimate favourite. It’s perfect. Wet sand, the sound of the ocean, wind in my hair and the smell of the sea. Really you’re on a different planet.”</div>
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“I know most won’t agree but this is the hottest place so far. Really! I have never felt so in control. The proximity of our bodies, the position, It’s the true definition of 'ride'. And heels help for elevation.”</div>
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“Wooden. (Only floor surface I’ve tried). You can drag easily. Rolling around is fun, getting the sheets entangled all an excellent substitute when you just can’t make it upstairs.”</div>
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“It’s the whole water effect I think. Floating around and etc... It needs a little more effort than usual. But you’re much lighter in the water. That’s the most useful part."</div>
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Getting naughty should never be limited to the bedroom. Everyone should experiment with unconventional areas once in a while or as often as possible. After all you live only once. </div>
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Effective communication and its many benefits are an ever common topic in all basic dating and relationships discussions. Most of us are adequately eloquent to maintain a conversation long enough and not offend our conversant, a skill that serves us well in all social situations.</div>
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For those of us who aren’t quite as skilled at making and holding a conversation, there’s a vast amount of content out there; however a commonly foregone problem is the issue of maintaining conversation pleasantries beyond the courting stage.</div>
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It’s no secret that we portray our best side when courting but following the point of attraction and initial stages in a relationship it’s common to see the niceties fade and the stressors of everyday life creeping into the romance. </div>
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Aggressive and offensive conversation patterns are the beginning of full blown arguments and disheartenments further down the line. There are a few basic conversation bummers you can avoid to stay away from that rut.</div>
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Most people come to their partners for the sole purpose of having someone on their side. An important aspect that you need to realize is that most times when your partner is complaining about gaining weight she already knows that the chocolate pudding she ate the other night had something to do with it, but she doesn’t need to hear it from you.</div>
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Before you start stuttering your diplomatic lies about how the unconscious body in the front yard isn’t her fault, there’s an important distinction to make between comfort seeking behaviour and delusional attitudes.</div>
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While comforting her is important, it’s equally important to ensure that she realizes she has to take responsibility for her actions. An effective way to tackle this issue is to ensure that the situation is revocable instead of claiming it isn’t her fault.</div>
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For example if she complains about weight she’s gaining it might be a good idea to mention that she can hit the gym over the weekend instead of claiming that she’s not gaining weight due to any fault of hers and that the weather gods are to blame.</div>
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Remember relating a long drawn story about how everything seemed to be going wrong today only to hear a non committal murmur from your partner? Well truth is most of us do.</div>
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Interest in minute details of your partner’s life fades over time and we tend to tune out when hearing something that isn’t of much interest to us or something that we’ve heard before. It’s important that you commit to these conversations by understanding how important the topic is to your partner.</div>
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While it may be acceptable to tune out from her commentary of her favourite TV show it might not be a good idea to tune out when she talks about her dead aunt who she was very close to as a child. </div>
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This is something most of us are guilty of, men in particular and women to a certain degree tend to focus on the principle mechanisms of a problem when we aren’t directly faced with it.</div>
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It’s easy for us to quickly make very harsh decisions on behalf of other people, completely ignoring their emotional turmoil when in reality we ourselves wouldn’t be so rash if faced with the same circumstances.</div>
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Most issues that people require counsel for have no easy solution and by providing a quick rash solution while ignoring the emotional elements, we are necessarily communicating our unwillingness to commit to helping them solve their problem.</div>
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<span style="font-size: 12px;">The general logic to live by is, if it’s got a drink named after it, chances are it’s really good; and that logic couldn’t be truer as in the case of sex. There’s hardly an argument against sex, there really hasn’t been since the puritans and by the looks of it there won’t be any such argument cropping up in the near future.</span></div>
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<span style="font-size: 12px;">But out of the obvious, there’s a lot more to sex than you would’ve thought. Turns out, what goes on under the sheets actually helps to alleviate your quality of life beyond what you might have initially imagined. </span></div>
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<span style="font-size: 12px;">Even though sex doesn’t inch out jogging or hitting the gym, regular sexual activity burns a substantial amount of fat capable of burning a few of those troublesome pounds. In numbers, 30 minutes of sexual activity is linked with 85 calories. Not that there are promises of getting a six pack but surely wouldn’t you rather have sex than hit the treadmill? </span></div>
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<span style="font-size: 12px;">Findings from a Scottish study of 24 women and 22 men who kept records of their sexual activity revealed that sexual intercourse improved blood circulation, essentially assisting individuals to manage stress better. The researchers put them in stressful situations, such as speaking in public and doing math out loud, and checked their blood pressure.</span></div>
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<span style="font-size: 12px;">Let’s get a little technical here, studies revealed that sexual activity and immunoglobulin A or IgA showed a correlation. IgA is an antibody that assists in the process of safeguarding us from infections like the common cold. The findings were revealed in a study carried out in Wilkes University in Wilkes-Barre, Pa with the participation of 112 subjects.</span></div>
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<span style="font-size: 12px;">Contrary to popular notion that sex increases the chances of men having a stroke, a study revealed that there was no correlation between sex and likelihood of having a stroke. Instead a 20 year-long British study revealed that men who had sex twice or more times a week were half as likely to have a fatal heart attack. </span></div>
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<span style="font-size: 12px;">Improving self esteem was one of 237 reasons why people have sex as archived and published by the University of Texas in their journal “The Archives of Sexual Behaviour”. Self esteem is a fairly obvious benefit of having sex considering that most people who get lucky in the sack are also very confident outside of the bedroom. </span></div>
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<span style="font-size: 12px;">Having regular physical contact and orgasms elevate the levels of the hormone termed Oxytocin which is popularly dubbed as the “love hormone”.</span></div>
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<span style="font-size: 12px;">Elevated levels of Oxytocin are observed following intimate physical contact and are shown to have an improvement of generosity; needless to say the generosity assists greatly in improving trust and bonds in a relationship. </span></div>
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<span style="font-size: 12px;">As very obscenely displayed in the movie “The girl with the dragon tattoo” sexual intercourse improves Oxytocin levels and Endorphins which allow for pain thresholds to be cut in as much as half.</span></div>
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<span style="font-size: 12px;">Even though deep bleeding gashes are probably not the best things to experiment with, headaches and other minor painful symptoms such as stomach cramps may be greatly alleviated following sexual intercourse. </span></div>
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<span style="font-size: 12px;">Men who ejaculate 21 times a month or more have been shown to have lesser chance of developing prostate cancer when compared to men who ejaculate 4 to 7 times a month. Even though the study wasn’t conclusive in identifying ejaculation to be the sole determinant of the reduced risk, why not try it right? </span></div>
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Ranjith Kapugehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04068948728783359004noreply@blogger.com0Deniyaya, Sri Lanka6.3452741 80.55773366.3294926 80.53799260000001 6.3610556 80.5774746tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4404775818378791685.post-5882906652913932632012-11-19T22:16:00.000+05:302012-11-19T22:16:21.711+05:30 Reasons for those sleepless nights<br />
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<span style="font-size: 14px;">Sleep is one of the most rewarding experiences for most adults who go through their day looking forward to the bliss of hitting their pillows. Imagine having to go through a busy day, hitting the sack and being unable to drift off to dreamland. Inability to sleep plagues many individuals of varying ages.</span></div>
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Let me start off by saying Insomnia is a clinical condition which requires professional medical intervention, this article only tries to alleviate sleeping problems not cure sleep disorders. A few fixes to your lifestyle may be the answer to getting that valuable shut eye time you crave. </div>
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Wonderful as caffeine is to keep you awake through those long drawn boring meetings; it can also last a very long time following its initial consumption time. The standard time span of caffeine is approximately 5 hours.</div>
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After the first wave of the reaction is distributed to all cellular structures of your body, the internal workings of your system gets rid of half the stuff in five hours, three quarters in ten hours and seven eighths in fifteen hours.</div>
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The easy conclusion to draw is that the caffeine in your morning cup of coffee is still running around in your system when you’re ready to get some sleep. Most of us rid our systems of caffeine much slower which means over time the caffeine in your system plays a large accumulated role of keeping you awake all through the day. </div>
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<span style="font-size: 14px;">This is a common reason for inability to fall asleep, remember that time you had something important to do in the morning and you got to bed a little later than you would’ve liked?</span></div>
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Also remember how you counted the hours of sleep you could squeeze in before you had to wake up and prepare for your big day? Thinking about sleep is one of the worst ways to fall asleep.</div>
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The condition is known as psychophysiological insomnia and is one of the most common forms of insomnia to affect working professionals who have meetings and work appointments to look forward to (or dread) in the morning. </div>
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<span style="font-size: 14px;">Alcohol is considered as a pro-sleep intoxicant by many, some even going the extent of using alcohol as their sleeping pill. The problem with this very well laid out plan is that alcohol causes the brain to rouse itself 15 to 20 times more than normal.</span></div>
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Most people wouldn’t notice these awakenings mainly because you need to be awake for 6 to 8 minutes to remember it as a waking experience. A random fact that also needs to be considered is that alcohol exerts twice to thrice the usual impact it has on the brain past 12 midnight when compared with 6 pm. </div>
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Tobacco also causes a great deal of insomnia due to the nicotine craving it creates in regular smokers. The brain rouses itself 20 times more in smokers than in an average person due to the nicotine withdrawal symptoms.</div>
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Can’t you be silent? Can’t you be moderate in your talk? It was the uppermost question he wanted to ask Anoma. But he feared the consequences for some unknown reason.</div>
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How can I indicate my feelings, he wondered. If I am to reveal openly what I feel, she would get angry. So he kept silent. Honestly some things she said were interesting. Only thing was that she would repeat the same story over and over again in many ways.</div>
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“Why don’t you write what you talk?” He once asked.</div>
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He tried to recollect the most recent event. He had to accompany Anoma to a gathering of friends.</div>
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Please don’t talk too much, he wanted to advise Anoma. But he could not get himself to do so. Then it came to a moment when Anoma opened one of her favourite episodes from the past to those seated around her.</div>
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“You know that place where I used to work before marriage... My god such a fantastic place...” she initiated the talk. The others were all ears around her. Anoma’s husband felt a little shy. But he was listening too.</div>
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“There was an interview... I went to the interview with all smiles. You know that was the best qualification I had from birth.”</div>
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“True, a smile itself is a good qualification,’ a young man stressed her opinion.</div>
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“Exactly,” Anoma adder her bit.</div>
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“But aren’t you a graduate?” a response from a young lady.</div>
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“Yes, yes I am... Wait will you till I’m done with my story,” Anoma was itching to finish off her story.</div>
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“So they asked me so many questions. I was lucky I could answer them all like a piece of cake. So finally they declared they picked me for the job.”</div>
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“So what was your position?” the gathering burst into a laugh for some reason.</div>
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“I was the boss’ private secretary. It was a very high up business firm.”</div>
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As the laughter rose again, Anoma’s husband felt shy a little more this time. Why can’t she just keep herself quiet, he silently wondered.</div>
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“Know what happened next? Some girls developed a jealousy for me. They hated my smile. My boss once asked me a question openly. Do you know why we chose you? I said no.</div>
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Then he said: it’s your smile, we love it so much. You will never imagine how happy I was to hear that remark. He said I would have been posted in the reception.”</div>
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Anoma’s husband felt it’s getting too much. Shut up, he felt like commanding, they are well off without your nonsense. But he felt feeble to put anything to action. Instead, he tried to diver the subject. Someone emerged from nowhere and asked him to join for a drink.</div>
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But he was reluctant to have a drink. He was scared it would cause another problem. Anyway he left Anoma with her friends, but full of worries in his head.</div>
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“Here, I’ve got another interesting story for you guys,” Anoma was getting into another conversation, as her husband was leaving.</div>
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“Oh my god,” said Anoma, “they were the women! They started gossiping about the boss and I. At first I didn’t take it seriously. But later it was getting out of hand. They were completely jealous about me. My boss knew this and one day he told me: ‘Anoma, they are jealous about you. They don’t like me talking good about you.’”</div>
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“I’ll fill my glass and come back,” saying so, he joined the male company. The males were also, Anoma’s husband noted to his own dismay, drinking, cracking jokes and nothing else. There was so much noise, so aloud like empty vessels. He found the situation ill at ease.</div>
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“I am neither here nor there,” he thought.</div>
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“I must go home and rest,” he thought. Coming back to Anoma, he found her munch another tale.</div>
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“Anoma, it’s time to go home,” he said.</div>
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“Are you in a hurry? We are enjoying your wife’s tales,” one lady quipped.</div>
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“Why, has she not finished yet?” He asked, noting his own tone irritating.</div>
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On the return, Anoma felt a certain sense of aloofness in her husband. He was silent for the most part.</div>
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“What’s wrong with you?” she asked.</div>
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“Let’s go home, I’ll tell you.”</div>
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Among its many complications is the conscious choice made towards engaging in the act of procreation, where animals engage in intercourse under instinctual conditions, we engage in sex on a conscious level driven by emotional requirements as complex as our physical ones. Not only are we the only species with a conscious consent to engage in sex we are also one of the very few species who engage in the act for the added motive of deriving pleasure from it. </div>
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As far as complexity goes female sexuality is the mark to beat. It’s been loosely assumed that men on average think about sex somewhere between 19 and 8000 times a day (not based on any solid research), the point being that men seem to engage in sex more or less on an instinctual level, a claim supported by the primary male hormone testosterone existing abundantly in male systems.</div>
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Females on the other hand find it a little more demanding to get in the zone and attaches strong emotional factors to their sexuality. However both genders will easily agree that sex is mankind’s worst kept best secret. A few tweaks in the male approach to sex can make the ride a joyful one for both partners, here’s a list of mainstay mistakes that men make in bed and how to fix them.</div>
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The first example is pretty straightforward, everyone has a preference, from Hentai to Bondage, and every genre has its own target audience, a fact that was clearly demonstrated by the recent bestselling book “50 shades of grey”.</div>
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Sex is mostly a guessing game and with extensive experience comes a better guess. Let’s face it no one gets to the Casanova like experience by guessing around the motions, and why suffer in the bedroom when all you have to do is voice it out. Everyone has their own kinks and turnoffs, a fact that needs be acknowledged and conveyed. </div>
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Confused</div>
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"Now what did I do?"</div>
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:-|</div>
</td><td style="width: 162px;"><div style="font-size: 15px; margin-bottom: 5px;">
Indifferent</div>
</td><td style="width: 316px;"><div style="font-size: 15px; margin-bottom: 5px;">
"You got a new house! So...?"</div>
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:-}</div>
</td><td style="width: 162px;"><div style="font-size: 15px; margin-bottom: 5px;">
Sarcastic</div>
</td><td style="width: 316px;"><div style="font-size: 15px; margin-bottom: 5px;">
"My my, you are the God of poor jokes!"</div>
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<tr><td style="width: 154px;"><div style="font-size: 15px; margin-bottom: 5px;">
:-p</div>
</td><td style="width: 162px;"><div style="font-size: 15px; margin-bottom: 5px;">
Sticking the tongue out</div>
</td><td style="width: 316px;"><div style="font-size: 15px; margin-bottom: 5px;">
"Pssrrrhhhhh...."</div>
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<tr><td style="width: 154px;"><div style="font-size: 15px; margin-bottom: 5px;">
;-), ;-}, ;-p</div>
</td><td style="width: 162px;"><div style="font-size: 15px; margin-bottom: 5px;">
Wink</div>
</td><td style="width: 316px;"><div style="font-size: 15px; margin-bottom: 5px;">
"Surprise surprise!"</div>
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B-)</div>
</td><td style="width: 162px;"><div style="font-size: 15px; margin-bottom: 5px;">
Wearing shades</div>
</td><td style="width: 316px;"><div style="font-size: 15px; margin-bottom: 5px;">
"Man you are some bright lady!"</div>
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<tr><td style="width: 154px;"><div style="font-size: 15px; margin-bottom: 5px;">
X-P</div>
</td><td style="width: 162px;"><div style="font-size: 15px; margin-bottom: 5px;">
Knocked out</div>
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unconscious or dead</div>
</td><td style="width: 316px;"><div style="font-size: 15px; margin-bottom: 5px;">
"You killed me!"</div>
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X-D</div>
</td><td style="width: 162px;"><div style="font-size: 15px; margin-bottom: 5px;">
Died laughing</div>
</td><td style="width: 316px;"><div style="font-size: 15px; margin-bottom: 5px;">
"The donkey kicked your...."</div>
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<tr><td style="width: 154px;"><div style="font-size: 15px; margin-bottom: 5px;">
:-*, :*)</div>
</td><td style="width: 162px;"><div style="font-size: 15px; margin-bottom: 5px;">
Kiss</div>
</td><td style="width: 316px;"><div style="font-size: 15px; margin-bottom: 5px;">
"This is for my cup cakes..."</div>
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o:-)</div>
</td><td style="width: 162px;"><div style="font-size: 15px; margin-bottom: 5px;">
Innocence</div>
</td><td style="width: 316px;"><div style="font-size: 15px; margin-bottom: 5px;">
"But I only stole a dollar!"</div>
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:-x</div>
</td><td style="width: 162px;"><div style="font-size: 15px; margin-bottom: 5px;">
Annoyed</div>
</td><td style="width: 316px;"><div style="font-size: 15px; margin-bottom: 5px;">
"Oh you again!"</div>
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<tr><td style="width: 154px;"><div style="font-size: 15px; margin-bottom: 5px;">
:O)</div>
</td><td style="width: 162px;"><div style="font-size: 15px; margin-bottom: 5px;">
Clown</div>
</td><td style="width: 316px;"><div style="font-size: 15px; margin-bottom: 5px;">
"Let's party!"</div>
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<tr><td style="width: 154px;"><div style="font-size: 15px; margin-bottom: 5px;">
:-~)</div>
</td><td style="width: 162px;"><div style="font-size: 15px; margin-bottom: 5px;">
Ailing from cold</div>
</td><td style="width: 316px;"><div style="font-size: 15px; margin-bottom: 5px;">
"Sniff sniff!"</div>
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<tr><td style="width: 154px;"><div style="font-size: 15px; margin-bottom: 5px;">
:`(</div>
</td><td style="width: 162px;"><div style="font-size: 15px; margin-bottom: 5px;">
Weeping</div>
</td><td style="width: 316px;"><div style="font-size: 15px; margin-bottom: 5px;">
"My cow died..."</div>
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<tr><td style="width: 154px;"><div style="font-size: 15px; margin-bottom: 5px;">
:-7</div>
</td><td style="width: 162px;"><div style="font-size: 15px; margin-bottom: 5px;">
Smirk</div>
</td><td style="width: 316px;"><div style="font-size: 15px; margin-bottom: 5px;">
"Yeah I am happy, you good for nothing fellow..."</div>
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<tr><td style="width: 154px;"><div style="font-size: 15px; margin-bottom: 5px;">
*<|:o)</div>
</td><td style="width: 162px;"><div style="font-size: 15px; margin-bottom: 5px;">
Santa Clause</div>
</td><td style="width: 316px;"><div style="font-size: 15px; margin-bottom: 5px;">
"Ho Ho Ho.... Merry Christmas!"</div>
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<tr><td style="width: 154px;"><div style="font-size: 15px; margin-bottom: 5px;">
:-9</div>
</td><td style="width: 162px;"><div style="font-size: 15px; margin-bottom: 5px;">
Salivating</div>
</td><td style="width: 316px;"><div style="font-size: 15px; margin-bottom: 5px;">
"Slurp slurp..."</div>
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<tr><td style="width: 154px;"><div style="font-size: 15px; margin-bottom: 5px;">
*-*</div>
</td><td style="width: 162px;"><div style="font-size: 15px; margin-bottom: 5px;">
Dazed</div>
</td><td style="width: 316px;"><div style="font-size: 15px; margin-bottom: 5px;">
"My angel, you make me fly..."</div>
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<tr><td style="width: 154px;"><div style="font-size: 15px; margin-bottom: 5px;">
:*)</div>
</td><td style="width: 162px;"><div style="font-size: 15px; margin-bottom: 5px;">
Drunk</div>
</td><td style="width: 316px;"><div style="font-size: 15px; margin-bottom: 5px;">
"This is your captain speaking!"</div>
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<tr><td style="width: 154px;"><div style="font-size: 15px; margin-bottom: 5px;">
{ }</div>
</td><td style="width: 162px;"><div style="font-size: 15px; margin-bottom: 5px;">
Hug</div>
</td><td style="width: 316px;"><div style="font-size: 15px; margin-bottom: 5px;">
"Come here you cuddly duddly.."</div>
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:-)(-:</div>
</td><td style="width: 162px;"><div style="font-size: 15px; margin-bottom: 5px;">
Married</div>
</td><td style="width: 316px;"><div style="font-size: 15px; margin-bottom: 5px;">
"Yeah, just got transferred to hell ;-)"</div>
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<tr><td style="width: 154px;"><div style="font-size: 15px; margin-bottom: 5px;">
<:3 )~</div>
</td><td style="width: 162px;"><div style="font-size: 15px; margin-bottom: 5px;">
Mouse</div>
</td><td style="width: 316px;"><div style="font-size: 15px; margin-bottom: 5px;">
"Squeak squeak"</div>
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<tr><td style="width: 154px;"><div style="font-size: 15px; margin-bottom: 5px;">
O-\-<]:</div>
</td><td style="width: 162px;"><div style="font-size: 15px; margin-bottom: 5px;">
Skateboarder</div>
</td><td style="width: 316px;"><div style="font-size: 15px; margin-bottom: 5px;">
"Come, ride with me"</div>
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<tr><td style="width: 154px;"><div style="font-size: 15px; margin-bottom: 5px;">
(:|</div>
</td><td style="width: 162px;"><div style="font-size: 15px; margin-bottom: 5px;">
Tired</div>
</td><td style="width: 316px;"><div style="font-size: 15px; margin-bottom: 5px;">
"Sigh, sleeping is so tiring!"</div>
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<tr><td style="width: 154px;"><div style="font-size: 15px; margin-bottom: 5px;">
:-E</div>
</td><td style="width: 162px;"><div style="font-size: 15px; margin-bottom: 5px;">
Vampire</div>
</td><td style="width: 316px;"><div style="font-size: 15px; margin-bottom: 5px;">
"Grrrr, I am a vampire, grrr!"</div>
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<tr><td style="width: 154px;"><div style="font-size: 15px; margin-bottom: 5px;">
|-O</div>
</td><td style="width: 162px;"><div style="font-size: 15px; margin-bottom: 5px;">
Yawn</div>
</td><td style="width: 316px;"><div style="font-size: 15px; margin-bottom: 5px;">
"It is so boring lying here in this lovely island with all these gorgeous ladies ;-)"</div>
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<tr><td style="width: 154px;"><div style="font-size: 15px; margin-bottom: 5px;">
('')-.-('')</div>
</td><td style="width: 162px;"><div style="font-size: 15px; margin-bottom: 5px;">
Bear</div>
</td><td style="width: 316px;"><div style="font-size: 15px; margin-bottom: 5px;">
"Here's a gift for you!"</div>
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<tr><td style="width: 154px;"><div style="font-size: 15px; margin-bottom: 5px;">
:-"></div>
</td><td style="width: 162px;"><div style="font-size: 15px; margin-bottom: 5px;">
Blushing</div>
</td><td style="width: 316px;"><div style="font-size: 15px; margin-bottom: 5px;">
"Gee, thanks!"</div>
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<tr><td style="width: 154px;"><div style="font-size: 15px; margin-bottom: 5px;">
(-_-)</div>
</td><td style="width: 162px;"><div style="font-size: 15px; margin-bottom: 5px;">
Boring</div>
</td><td style="width: 316px;"><div style="font-size: 15px; margin-bottom: 5px;">
"Oh, ha ha! good joke!"</div>
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<tr><td style="width: 154px;"><div style="font-size: 15px; margin-bottom: 5px;">
:=)</div>
</td><td style="width: 162px;"><div style="font-size: 15px; margin-bottom: 5px;">
Orangutan</div>
</td><td style="width: 316px;"><div style="font-size: 15px; margin-bottom: 5px;">
"You look like one..."</div>
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<tr><td style="width: 154px;"><div style="font-size: 15px; margin-bottom: 5px;">
+<:-)</div>
</td><td style="width: 162px;"><div style="font-size: 15px; margin-bottom: 5px;">
Pope</div>
</td><td style="width: 316px;"><div style="font-size: 15px; margin-bottom: 5px;">
"Bless you my child!"</div>
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<tr><td style="width: 154px;"><div style="font-size: 15px; margin-bottom: 5px;">
x_x</div>
</td><td style="width: 162px;"><div style="font-size: 15px; margin-bottom: 5px;">
Dead</div>
</td><td style="width: 316px;"><div style="font-size: 15px; margin-bottom: 5px;">
"Goodbye cruel world!"</div>
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<tr><td style="width: 154px;"><div style="font-size: 15px; margin-bottom: 5px;">
O?O</div>
</td><td style="width: 162px;"><div style="font-size: 15px; margin-bottom: 5px;">
What?</div>
</td><td style="width: 316px;"><div style="font-size: 15px; margin-bottom: 5px;">
"What, you are a gay?"</div>
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<tr><td style="width: 154px;"><div style="font-size: 15px; margin-bottom: 5px;">
x_O O_x</div>
</td><td style="width: 162px;"><div style="font-size: 15px; margin-bottom: 5px;">
Punched in the face</div>
</td><td style="width: 316px;"><div style="font-size: 15px; margin-bottom: 5px;">
"Take this, you canhead!"</div>
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<tr><td style="width: 154px;"><div style="font-size: 15px; margin-bottom: 5px;">
:-)<>>>>></div>
</td><td style="width: 162px;"><div style="font-size: 15px; margin-bottom: 5px;">
Smiling with a tie</div>
</td><td style="width: 316px;"><div style="font-size: 15px; margin-bottom: 5px;">
"Have an interview today!"</div>
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<tr><td style="width: 154px;"><div style="font-size: 15px; margin-bottom: 5px;">
.)</div>
</td><td style="width: 162px;"><div style="font-size: 15px; margin-bottom: 5px;">
Watching you</div>
</td><td style="width: 316px;"><div style="font-size: 15px; margin-bottom: 5px;">
"I know what you did last summer!"</div>
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<tr><td style="width: 154px;"><div style="font-size: 15px; margin-bottom: 5px;">
(_8-(|)</div>
</td><td style="width: 162px;"><div style="font-size: 15px; margin-bottom: 5px;">
Homer Simpson</div>
</td><td style="width: 316px;"><div style="font-size: 15px; margin-bottom: 5px;">
"Don't eat me, I have a family, eat them!"</div>
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<tr><td style="width: 154px;"><div style="font-size: 15px; margin-bottom: 5px;">
:**</div>
</td><td style="width: 162px;"><div style="font-size: 15px; margin-bottom: 5px;">
Returning kiss</div>
</td><td style="width: 316px;"><div style="font-size: 15px; margin-bottom: 5px;">
"Here take your kiss back!"</div>
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<tr><td style="width: 154px;"><div style="font-size: 15px; margin-bottom: 5px;">
:-&</div>
</td><td style="width: 162px;"><div style="font-size: 15px; margin-bottom: 5px;">
Tongue tied</div>
</td><td style="width: 316px;"><div style="font-size: 15px; margin-bottom: 5px;">
"Blah blah blah!.."</div>
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<tr><td style="width: 154px;"><div style="font-size: 15px; margin-bottom: 5px;">
=====:}</div>
</td><td style="width: 162px;"><div style="font-size: 15px; margin-bottom: 5px;">
Snake</div>
</td><td style="width: 316px;"><div style="font-size: 15px; margin-bottom: 5px;">
"Hiss, I will kiss you!"</div>
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<tr><td style="width: 154px;"><div style="font-size: 15px; margin-bottom: 5px;">
Q:-)</div>
</td><td style="width: 162px;"><div style="font-size: 15px; margin-bottom: 5px;">
College graduate</div>
</td><td style="width: 316px;"><div style="font-size: 15px; margin-bottom: 5px;">
"I want a job!"</div>
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<tr><td style="width: 154px;"><div style="font-size: 15px; margin-bottom: 5px;">
[:-|</div>
</td><td style="width: 162px;"><div style="font-size: 15px; margin-bottom: 5px;">
Frankenstein</div>
</td><td style="width: 316px;"><div style="font-size: 15px; margin-bottom: 5px;">
"You.. Me.. Go .. Dating... Have ..Fun...zzzzzz"</div>
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<tr><td style="width: 154px;"><div style="font-size: 15px; margin-bottom: 5px;">
|-|</div>
</td><td style="width: 162px;"><div style="font-size: 15px; margin-bottom: 5px;">
Asleep</div>
</td><td style="width: 316px;"><div style="font-size: 15px; margin-bottom: 5px;">
"Zzzzz"</div>
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<tr><td style="width: 154px;"><div style="font-size: 15px; margin-bottom: 5px;">
~:\</div>
</td><td style="width: 162px;"><div style="font-size: 15px; margin-bottom: 5px;">
Elvis</div>
</td><td style="width: 316px;"><div style="font-size: 15px; margin-bottom: 5px;">
"Ain't That Lovin' You, Baby!"</div>
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<tr><td style="width: 154px;"><div style="font-size: 15px; margin-bottom: 5px;">
$__$</div>
</td><td style="width: 162px;"><div style="font-size: 15px; margin-bottom: 5px;">
Sees money</div>
</td><td style="width: 316px;"><div style="font-size: 15px; margin-bottom: 5px;">
"Am I money minded?"</div>
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<tr><td style="width: 154px;"><div style="font-size: 15px; margin-bottom: 5px;">
8)~~*</div>
</td><td style="width: 162px;"><div style="font-size: 15px; margin-bottom: 5px;">
Frog catching a fly</div>
</td><td style="width: 316px;"><div style="font-size: 15px; margin-bottom: 5px;">
"Hmmm.. tastes like chicken!"</div>
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In this table, or if I may say, emoticon dictionary, as you can see, there are all common kind of expressions you may think of. Also, you can slightly change the smiley face emoticon meanings, by using a semi colon instead of a colon. While, : represents the eyes, ; stands for a wink. I think it will take a while for you to learn and remember all these sym bols and meanings. So, whenever you are confused about any of these meanings, :-\, drop in and leave with a smile :). Cheers!</div>
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Ranjith Kapugehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04068948728783359004noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4404775818378791685.post-46831638280657733212012-11-05T22:11:00.001+05:302012-11-05T22:11:45.460+05:30Where are your manners, please?<div style="text-align: justify;">
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For example my grandmother’s staunch motto of ‘Children should be seen and not heard’ is not one I readily adhere to in my family nowadays. I respect what my children have to say as long as they don’t interrupt anyone or talk over anyone. But saying that, children should have manners and there should be no exception to the rule.</div>
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A child lacking in manners, is a spoiled child who grows up to be an adult who least respects their fellow citizens and thus begins the disintegration of society as a whole.</div>
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Let the teaching of manners begin!</div>
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As soon as children are able to speak and understand your commands, you should slowly start introducing the concept of manners. A mere ‘excuse-me’ after a sneeze or a burp, a ‘thank-you’ when given something are all simple manners to begin with.</div>
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My son used to always end up getting his manners mixed up for he would say thank you after every sneeze.</div>
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Respecting others by not interrupting them during conversations, talking over people and so forth are important expectations to install in your children as they take part in more social gatherings. The ‘donot interrupt mummy’ when she is talking is my constant mantra.</div>
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Proper manners at mealtimes is definitely a constant battle that parents have. Each day the same set of rules are repeated, elbows off tables, sit down on chairs, no standing, no chewing with mouth open and so forth.</div>
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It is definitely a test of one’s patience. You might offer little incentives to the one who has the best manners.</div>
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A common behavior at Sri Lankan mealtimes is how the family will eat first whilst the mother hovers around acting as the glorified servant dishing out food. Actually in some cases if a child is hungry they are encouraged to eat first disrespecting all others present.</div>
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Many mothers do this and I find it is the root to all spoiled little boys who grow up to be insensitive husbands who because of the way they were brought up have no concern for other family members during mealtimes. If I am hungry I eat, there is no waiting for anyone else is their motto.</div>
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Mealtimes are important family gatherings. The family should sit down together, if the children are eating early, this is fine, but both parents should make the effort to have a united front. These are simple manners of respect for each and should begin within the family first rather than with strangers.</div>
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It is important to teach children about privacy and the respect for parent’s privacy. Even though our children love lounging about in our room and especially in our bed. They have been taught to respect our privacy, to knock before you enter, to respect our belongings and so forth.</div>
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We should also teach our children to respect those who are different to us. To be aware of other peoples needs when out and about. Not to point or stare and definitely to respect peoples sense of space, which seems to be lacking in the Sri Lankan society.</div>
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Of course your ideas of manners can differ from mine and there are others you might want to incorporate, but we are definitely on the same agenda, we just want our children to grow up to be good and kind people, and that starts with some manners!</div>
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Ranjith Kapugehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04068948728783359004noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4404775818378791685.post-69866605279935757592012-11-04T20:32:00.002+05:302012-11-04T20:32:41.384+05:30“My Partner’s Ex is Ruining Our Relationship!”<div style="text-align: justify;">
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Being in a relationship with the custodial parent of a broken family can present its set of challenges (whether or not you bring your own children to the relationship). When there’s an adversarial relationship between your partner and his or her ex, it’s not uncommon for the parental issues, legal issues, and emotions to spill into and impact your relationship.</div>
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Indeed, these types of frustrations and conflicts have caused relationships to break up. That being said, this result doesn’t always have to be the case.</div>
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While it would be nice to have a peaceful relationship where everybody gets along, it’s an unfortunate reality that this kind of relationship can take some mindful navigation, especially if you are living with the custodial parent (and therefore, with the children, too).</div>
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Here are some suggestions for handling a relationship where the conflict between your partner and his or her ex is spilling into your relationship:</div>
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1) Remove Yourself. Your partner’s issues with his or her ex are best left between them. If the ex sees that you are moving into a parental role with his or her children, which can include simply joining in the parenting conversations between them, the situation may turn adversarial and create strain in your relationship.</div>
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Your partner is the one who needs to navigate a relationship with the ex, but you don’t need to be involved in their process, unless it is asked and agreed that it would be beneficial to have you playing a sort of parental role (e.g. if you are committed long term, or involved as a step-parent).</div>
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2) Support Your Partner. It’s not an easy situation for your partner to have to raise children, work, and struggle emotionally and possibly legally with his or her ex, while attempting to have a healthy relationship with you at the same time . Being a positive support to your partner — listening, helping with the kids, etc. – can help your partner cope while strengthening your relationship.</div>
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3) Plan togetherness time. If your partner is overwhelmed with issues involving his or her ex, and you’re seeing your relationship sliding down the priority list, take the initiative to plan some meaningful time together — dates, dinners out, fun activities with your partner and maybe the children as well.</div>
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4) Don’t Parent the Children (if not the step-parent, or long-term domestic partner). It can be very tempting for some people to want to act as a pseudo-parent, especially if living with the children. Unless this has been agreed to all around (between you, your partner, partner’s ex, and the children), it’s generally best to refrain from playing a parental role. Otherwise, it opens the door for possible resentment from the children, a battle with the ex, and possibly even conflict with your partner.</div>
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Having your own unique relationship with the children will help establish boundaries and avoid confusion. It’s important for the children to know that you’re a safe and supportive person, but that they have their parents already in place. If the children turn to you as a parental figure, don’t be afraid to reinforce the boundaries of your role with them so the children understand.</div>
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5) Don’t Overlook Yourself. Being in a relationship with a parent has expected challenges. While it is necessary to understand that these challenges are part of the deal, it’s also still important that you’re fulfilled in your relationship. It’s good to be supportive, but you’re not signing up to be a caretaker to your partner’s frustrations with his or her ex. If you’re doing all the work, or if you’re not being fulfilled, this is an issue that needs to be addressed, even if the partner is having issues with the ex. Communicate with your partner about your relationship. Couples therapy may be helpful for this, as could separate individual therapy for each of you.</div>
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The high-conflict ex will do what they will do. You can only control how you handle your part of the relationship. While you can’t solve your partner’s issues with his or her ex, the more you understand your boundaries in the relationship, the better chance you have of successfully side-stepping any lasting impact of the high-conflict ex.</div>
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<a href="http://blogs.psychcentral.com/">blogs.psychcentral.com</a> By <a href="http://blogs.psychcentral.com/relationships-balance/author/nathanf/">NATHAN FEILES, LMSW</a></div>
Ranjith Kapugehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04068948728783359004noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4404775818378791685.post-92089099789262159732012-11-03T23:55:00.001+05:302012-11-03T23:55:36.342+05:305 Ways To Apologize To Someone You Love <br />
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When I wake up in the morning, one of the first things I do is read the news. Often, a politician or celebrity is apologizing. Whether it was Chris Brown for his behavior on Good Morning America, <a href="http://www.care2.com/greenliving/kristen-stewart-rupert-sanders-cheating.html">Kristen Stewart for cheating</a> on her boyfriend Robert Pattison or Tiger Woods for his affairs with multiple women. With online traffic increasing dramatically to websites, such as theperfectapology.com and imsorry.com, apologizing is in fashion.</div>
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Obviously, the word “sorry” does not quite cut it if you have intentionally slept with your best friend’s boyfriend or accidentally run over their pet. On the other hand, if you canceled dinner plans with a friend because you’ve been asked on a hot date or you accidentally missed your son’s football game, “<a href="http://www.care2.com/greenliving/how-to-say-youre-sorry.html">sorry</a>” is your only way out.</div>
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There is an art to a proper apology. Research has shown that apologizing in a heartfelt way can help you to reduce stress and alleviate guilt. Here are five simple steps to help you apologize:</div>
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1. Take responsibility. Know that if someone is upset with you, it is likely for a good reason. Take the time to reflect on what you might have done to upset them. If you haven’t done anything wrong, then don’t apologize. But, if you have, proceed to step two.</div>
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2. Apologize immediately. If you have done something inappropriate, don’t try to justify your position in your mind. Let the other person know immediately that you didn’t mean to upset them. Ideally, doing this face-to-face is most powerful or by phone if they live far away. Avoid doing it in an email or through Facebook.</div>
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3. Acknowledge they are upset. Be clear about what you are sorry about. Acknowledge how your lack of awareness has upset them. If you need to explain yourself, only do it to show that you didn’t mean to upset them. Do not try to bring out the pity card, make yourself feel better or to wiggle yourself out of making the apology.</div>
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4. Ask for forgiveness. When you ask for forgiveness, let them know that you will not do it again. If they do accept your apology, say thank you and move on.</div>
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5. Forgive yourself. If they don’t accept your apology, then there is nothing more you can do. Whether they do or don’t accept your apology, you must let it go. Guilt is only going to harm you internally, so <a href="http://www.care2.com/greenliving/dinner-with-monica-lewinsky-6-reasons-to-forgive-yourself.html">forgive yourself</a>.</div>
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If you feel that the circumstance deserves compensation, then do what is appropriate. On the odd occasion you might want to send flowers, take them for dinner or if the situation requires extreme measures, don’t be afraid to lay prostrate on the floor, hang on to their legs and beg for forgiveness. This is a tactic I sometimes use to great effect with my husband. In any case, remember what Alexander Pope said: “To err is human, to forgive is divine.”</div>
http://www.care2.comRanjith Kapugehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04068948728783359004noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4404775818378791685.post-1545137263998916352012-11-02T23:21:00.000+05:302012-11-02T23:21:01.235+05:30Sex Myth Busters: First sexual intercourse is yucky and painful<br />
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<span style="font-size: 12px;">First sexual intercourse is a special event for both boys and girls. We only lose our virginity once.</span></div>
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<span style="font-size: 12px;">Sex is the most intimate physical activity we can ever share with someone. Think about it. </span></div>
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<span style="font-size: 12px;">That’s why it’s so special. And that’s why it is important to keep our first experience of sex for someone we trust – someone who we know values and appreciates us, and who’s already promised to honour us, for all of our life. Yes, I do mean marriage! </span></div>
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<span style="font-size: 12px;">Globally, girls and boys are having this first sexual intercourse at a younger and younger age. Many of them – girls more than boys – say they regret that they lost their virginity in an act of casual sex – the ‘one night stand’ or ‘quickie’. </span></div>
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<span style="font-size: 12px;">Let’s get back to this particular myth.</span></div>
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<span style="font-size: 12px;">Yes, it is true that the first act of intercourse can be painful, for both boys and girls. The younger and less informed you are, the more likely it is that you will have discomfort and even pain. And when you are in a couple relationship based purely on ‘doing it’ then being nude and experiencing close genital contact and exchange of fluids that takes place in sexual intercourse can definitely be a very ‘yucky’ experience. </span></div>
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<span style="font-size: 12px;">Of course in comparison, the coming together as sexual partners in a committed relationship of trust and faith in each other, where each is looking to please the other in the act of lovemaking after a marriage promise, is the other extreme. It’s ‘yummy’ not ‘yucky’!</span></div>
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<span style="font-size: 12px;">Anyway, why does first intercourse sometimes hurt? <em><strong>Let’s look at the girl first.</strong></em></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: 12px;">Firstly, pain and bleeding can occur when the hymen is torn. When a girl is developing in the womb of her mother, the opening of the vagina is covered by a tissue-like membrane called the hymen. As a girl approaches puberty, the hymen breaks down little by little, and allows menstrual blood to flow out of her body. </span></div>
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<span style="font-size: 12px;">Sometimes, the girl could have a little bit of hymen tissue left in her vagina. So the first time a man’s penis enters her, it could tear this remaining hymen, causing a twinge of pain and a few drops of blood. If this does happen, don’t worry; it’s perfectly normal. If it doesn’t happen, don’t worry; that just means that our one of the fifty per cent of girls who don’t bleed with first sexual intercourse.</span></div>
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<span style="font-size: 12px;">Secondly, pain is a result of the girl not being sufficiently relaxed and ready for sex. The word we use is sexually aroused. Hurried sex where the boy hasn’t taken the time for the kiss, cuddle and communication that turns on a girl and lets her know she is loved, will result in a girl having a tight and dry vagina – a recipe for pain during sexual intercourse and often the foundation for future sexual problems.</span></div>
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<em><strong><span style="font-size: 12px;">What about the boy? </span></strong></em></div>
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<span style="font-size: 12px;">Can first sex be painful for him? The tip of a man’s penis, called the ‘glans’, is very sensitive. It’s covered by a fold of skin called the foreskin. This foreskin is cut off in the surgical procedure of circumcision. In some uncircumcised boys, the foreskin may be tight, and get pushed back in first intercourse. If this happens, it’ll hurt, and the foreskin might tear and bleed. The best way to avoid this is for boys to gently push back their foreskin and wash the glans of their penis when they take a bath. </span></div>
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<span style="font-size: 12px;">Will marriage fix this? Does staying a virgin until marriage guarantee a pain-free first sexual experience? </span></div>
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<span style="font-size: 12px;">No, because, like we said above, sometimes it’s just because of our genitalia – the woman’s hymen, or the man’s foreskin. And even after marriage, we don’t always know how to love and arouse our spouse. This is why those of us who are sex educators and therapists want every couple to have premarital sex education.</span></div>
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<strong><span style="color: purple;"><span style="font-size: 12px;">So be careful how you approach our first act of sexual intercourse. Don’t throw away something special in a casual encounter.</span></span></strong></div>
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<strong><span style="color: purple;"><span style="font-size: 12px;">A comment: Maybe you have already had sexual intercourse with one or more people. Maybe you regret what has happened. Maybe it was a ‘spur of the moment’ thing, or you were drunk. Whatever the situation, there are a couple of very important things that you should know:</span></span></strong></div>
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<strong><span style="color: purple;"><span style="font-size: 12px;">1. If you and the person you had sex with were not using a contraceptive, you may be pregnant.</span></span></strong></div>
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<strong><span style="color: purple;"><span style="font-size: 12px;">2. Even if you used a condom, it does not protect you from all sexually transmitted infections. You could get genital warts, or genital herpes or pubic lice. Get yourself checked out.</span></span></strong></div>
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<span style="font-size: 12px;">Remember “virginity” is a state of mind not a state of your genitals. Make a promise to yourself to behave wisely in your sexual practice.</span></div>
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<em><strong>(The author, Patricia Weerakoon, is a medical doctor turned Sexologist and Writer who is based in Sydney, Australia)</strong></em></div>
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The gray area between love and sex has shrunk considerably over the years within given reason and media influence. As a highly evolved civilization we now enjoy an often confusing distinction between love, sex and all that goes on between the sheets.An increasingly sexualized media propels the campaign under the often quoted principle “sex sells”. In reality love and sex are two concepts that even though overlapping within the context of intimacy, carry much that is mutually exclusive to each other right? Wrong! Researchers the world over are toying with the idea that sex is as much an affair of the heart as love is.</div>
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The age old definition of sex as a biological process independent of the emotional groundwork laid out for love is slowly being replaced by the new understanding that sex is in fact love misspelled.</div>
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The basis for these scandalous claims originate from findings made through a study carried out by Jim Pfaus, involving extensive analysis of related studies dealing with fMRI scans of brain activity in individuals viewing erotic material. The brain activity of subjects under these conditions were recorded, the real surprise came when the circuitry involving sexual arousal was compared with the circuitry that lit up when the same people ogled at their loved ones.</div>
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In simple English, the results suggests that brain regions which are localized for a variety of diverse functions utilize the same circuit when processing love and sex with the slight difference of placing emphasis on either the frontal area or the rear. The said frontal cortex which specializes in complicated activities like algebra, showed more activity when dealing with love and related affairs, while the rear region known mostly as the occipital cortex lit up brighter when sex was the topic in question.</div>
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Aside from rebutting years of white robe preaching, these findings translates to a basic concept that both challenges and sours generations of sugar coating. Love is essentially a concrete ideal based by large on a more primal innate need for sex. The close links between sex and long standing relationships shed spotlights on the importance of sex in relationships and how neglecting the bedroom warrants a marriage between the workplace and the kitchen with little else getting in its way.</div>
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Another interesting note is the voice of advocacy which reigns strong over matters concerning sex and love, often describe romantic love as the richest of sublime human expressions and as a basis of all social units (family) while sex is seen as a vile and vulgar expression of man’s animalistic instinct.</div>
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In light of the current findings it’s easy to deduce the importance of monogamy in institutions such as marriage. Interestingly the same findings make a strong case for being faithful in romantic relationships providing the much needed fiber of strength to an otherwise shaky expression of romantic love.</div>
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Aristotelian teachings introduce the concept of intrinsic and extrinsic goals which are defined as goals that can be achieved externally from society or internally from within the individual. Sex without love is essentially an extrinsic goal; one that lacks clear structure but appeals to the basal needs of human mortality while romantic love is an intrinsic goal and satisfies more humanistic needs such as affection and companionship nevertheless based on primary carnal needs.</div>
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“Sex without love is an empty experience, but as empty experiences go it's one of the best.” Woody Allen</div>
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By Dilshan Seneratne - dailymirror.lk</div>
Ranjith Kapugehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04068948728783359004noreply@blogger.com0Colombo, Sri Lanka6.9270786 79.8612436.8640276 79.782279 6.9901295999999995 79.940207tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4404775818378791685.post-38528081401706724242012-10-28T21:31:00.000+05:302012-10-28T21:32:40.568+05:30Amanda Todd Tragic Death<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: justify;">
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An issue far too close to home, literally and figuratively, has shocked and saddened me, along with most of the world aware of it. I have been losing sleep over it. So I figured I would take to the blog to vent and decompress a little.</div>
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<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjhVdLFYEWHs038EbAP_812Zf9rx8IPQzz7i4YrugRH-OcdmKhiNVs8eABXBvzr6TbhP-c_yFP2JhaVUX108MFMTG5xczgyNLsDy8Byk3FoJZc_Y9auUJTxCjcQbEefBjxn55i8a8B_MCg/s1600/Amanda+Todd,+Coquitlam+teen.jpg" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjhVdLFYEWHs038EbAP_812Zf9rx8IPQzz7i4YrugRH-OcdmKhiNVs8eABXBvzr6TbhP-c_yFP2JhaVUX108MFMTG5xczgyNLsDy8Byk3FoJZc_Y9auUJTxCjcQbEefBjxn55i8a8B_MCg/s320/Amanda+Todd,+Coquitlam+teen.jpg" /></a>For those of you who aren't aware of the suicide of a 15 year old girl named Amanda Todd, you can read about her heartbreaking experience and tragic early death here. You can also view the video cry for help that she posted on YouTube here, one month before she took her own life.</div>
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Solutions suggested thus far? Talk to your parents. Talk to a counsellor. Seek help.</div>
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Because that will stop the asshole kids who taunt, name call, harass, humiliate, follow, shout out, circle, threaten, assault, and terrorize victims.</div>
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Think I sound harsh? Think I am only referring to extreme cases? I am not. If you were lucky enough to escape bullying in your youth, you are one exception to this.</div>
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Why am I so very extremely furious? Because I was in her shoes 22 years ago, and I continued to wear them until after my sister was married. Yet without the proliferation and immediate humiliation of social media, which only makes things exponentially worse.</div>
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My personal hell started in grade 5 or so. I held hands with a boy two years older than me. That is when I recall the worst of the torment starting. I was called a slut, a whore, a hooker. I had groups of girls who would walk around me in a circle, yell obscene things at me, and tell me I was a worthless piece of shit.</div>
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I WAS TEN YEARS OLD.</div>
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TEN GODDAMNED YEARS OLD.</div>
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Wash, rinse, repeat. It didn't matter if I was kind, or quiet, or crying. It didn't matter if I ignored them, pretended I couldn't hear them. It didn't matter if I ignored the boys who liked me, or if I played terribly in gym class. Didn't matter if I made the volleyball team, found excuses to not go outside at lunch or if I didn't go out socially.</div>
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Back then the biggest technological advance was three-way calling, in which you could be convinced to share something personal only to find out that your crush, or your enemy, was listening on the line the entire time. But then, the worst was through word-of-mouth, and I dreaded getting on the country school bus the next day. It wasn't broadcast instantly to hundreds of others via Facebook. The thought makes me shudder.</div>
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I know, and I think that you will agree, that most kids just have a deep, deep desire to be accepted. To be "one of the group", and to feel like they have a place to belong. If kids reject you, you try to make friends with other people. You try to find your place. The place where you can be yourself without being torn to shreds and left in tears. You try to find even one friend who will let you feel like you are not alone in this world.</div>
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Amanda Todd did just that. She was trying to meet people. She chatted online with others. And being young, unaware and impressionable, when someone showed her that friendliness and acceptance, I imagine that Amanda felt a huge weight lifted off - a huge relief to finally connect with another person. She found solidarity and someone who was kind and complimentary to her.</div>
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How could she have known, at 12 years old, that the sick f*ck on the other end of the chat was a man looking to destroy her sense of self worth?</div>
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Amanda Todd trusted her new friend, and in a moment of youthful indiscretion - a moment that she could not have begun to comprehend what possible consequences would be involved - she did something risky and "big girl" and she flashed her webcam as asked.</div>
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Before you say "Amanda should have known better, she should never have done that, she didn't know who it was, or what they could do with the image", I'd like you to ask yourself the differences between your jaded, aware adult brain (aware of the evil that some people are capable of in this world) and what your mind was thinking of at the age of 12. My guess is that the two are very different, and that the 12 year old you was simply seeking the connection, acceptance and compliments of that seemingly kind person on the other end of the chat.</div>
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People keep talking about how she "made mistakes" but shouldn't have to pay for them for the rest of her life. But I take that even a step further. She was twelve years old. She likely had no idea that those few seconds in time could last the last three years of her life. Her tormented, lonely life.</div>
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Amanda Todd was having an online chat. She wasn't drinking and driving. She wasn't shoplifting. Amanda had fleeting seconds that changed things forever. If it was a normal person on the opposite end of her chat, it would have been a non-issue. It wouldn't be considered a mistake. The moment would have passed and she may have realized she didn't want to do something like that again. In the moment she was being a kid - having fun, trying to be accepted, trying to please. It is only because the twisted idiot that she was chatting with turned it into a disgusting, life changing moment for her. So was it really her mistake? She had no control over what the bastard did with her image after the fact. The blame lies with the harasser, people.</div>
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When Amanda didn't provide more graphic content to the harasser, he threatened to share the image with the world. And he did. And the police were called once her exposure was shared with her teachers and friends. And her life would never, ever be the same again.</div>
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I remember watching a movie recently where the starlet was accused of sleeping around the school. It was entirely false, but the entire school was made aware within a short period of time. I commented to my husband how horrible bullying and harassment must be today in school, with people being able to simultaneously take your photo or video, upload it online, and share it via Facebook, Twitter and email.</div>
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Remember when you tripped in the cafeteria and landed face down in your chocolate milk in grade nine? People laughed, kids pointed, you were called a dumb klutz, someone might have even kicked you when you were down. You may have endured teasing for the week, or a few weeks. But you were never immortalized at once on social media sites for the entire world to see.</div>
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And we aren't talking chocolate milk here. We are essentially talking what comes down to some sick pervert posting and circulating a version of child pornography with the world. With malicious and cruel intent.</div>
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My personal torment continued into high school. When I wouldn't sleep with my boyfriend at the time, Jay C., I was subjected to being called a "tight bitch", baby, suck, and was told I would die with a tight p**sy. His ex girlfriend Tina, her friend Tammy, his friend Curt, and himself, decided to shout this to me regularly around the door to the school cafeteria.</div>
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And this was after months of being followed by Tina and Tammy, with them waiting and staring at me outside my geography class door. I used to feel sick knowing I had no choice but to walk by them to get to my next class. They used to bark at me. Because I was a female dog, a bitch. I assume she was mad that I was dating her ex.</div>
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It became so severe and so consuming, I eventually had to drop out for a semester, even though I was on track to graduate a year early. I was being constantly followed in the halls, yelled at, threatened, being told in the same breath that I was a slut and that I was tight. That I was a bitch and that I was a goody two-shoes. It was relentless.</div>
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Amanda Todd STILL persevered throughout this. She changed schools, twice. It haunted her and followed her no matter where she went. It wasn't just the harasser from the webcam. It was her classmates, people who claimed to like her/be into her/be her friends. Her Mom tried to find help for her. She saw doctors. She was "referred to services".</div>
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You know what? IT DIDN'T HELP.</div>
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You know why? BECAUSE THE BULLYING DIDN'T STOP.</div>
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If you have had traumatic events in your life, you never forget them. Depending on the severity of the traumas, a person can be plagued with flashbacks, intrusive dreams or thoughts, general anxiety, fear, constant vigilance, depression and low-to-non-existent self esteem and feelings of no self worth.</div>
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But if they happen, and they stop, you can try to talk through the pain and the hurt and take medication and do your best to survive through it. I've been through some horrible, horrible things that I haven't shared on this blog, but may some day. I still cry about them to this day. And I stumble and struggle and muster through my life as an adult, still not sure how to cope with some of it.</div>
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Amanda Todd tried to cope with this from age 12 to 15.</div>
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You tell me how the hell A CHILD can make sense of something like this.</div>
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I had to stand and testify at 16 years of age. I had the support of my parents, my sister, and I sat there wanting to just die and never have to think again.</div>
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Somehow, we got through it. Somehow.</div>
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If, for some reason, you are a teenager, or a young adult, or adult reading this who is experiencing such torment - please know that ONE DAY it will stop, even if it means changing your name completely and moving to another province, state or country. Even if it means adopting an entirely different email address, cutting off communication with people from your old life, and deleting any and all Facebook, YouTube or Twitter accounts. YOU CAN ESCAPE IT, even if it seems impossible.</div>
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It's damn hard, and the effects run deep.</div>
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The elementary school where I was followed, circled, and threatened to be stabbed at the end of the school year? Yeah, they had a "zero tolerance" policy for bullying. The girl threatening to kill me, Tricia G*****s, was part of the "troubled child" part of our school. They got to play video games and go bowling because they "had issues". I got to cry myself to sleep at night and live in fear at school.</div>
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The high school where my friend was beaten and had her head slammed into ceramic tile? The one where I was shoved, barked at, humiliated and followed? Well, P.J. also had a zero tolerance policy. Even on the stand, when I testified at my friend's trial about the abuse she suffered, one of the school counsellors, Pam B., managed to quote the wrong date on the stand and essentially throw both her and our testimony into question. Nothing was ever done. The tormenting didn't stop, until those bullies left school, and then finally when I got the hell out and went to college in another city.</div>
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IT'S ALL BULLSHIT.</div>
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Why?</div>
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Because the very thing that needs to be changed is ALLOWING THE BULLIES TO KEEP BULLYING.</div>
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I talked my face off through my experience. My mom listened to tears and worry and sadness for days on end. My dad tried to step in and tell a few to stop or else we would pursue things through police. I had counselling, I talked to doctors, I was medicated.</div>
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IT ONLY CHANGED ONCE THE BULLIES WERE REMOVED FROM MY LIFE.</div>
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I wish they could start implementing mandatory reporting from classmates, surveillance on the school ground, strict expulsion for students who bully, kids who monitor for such activity in case the bullies corroborate each others' stories and claim innocence, and strict legal and criminal record penalties for verbal, emotional and physical abuse for anyone regardless if they are under 18.</div>
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But you know what? Then the bullies wait until kids like Amanda Todd are off school property and are walking home. Or until they are on the city bus, or at the mall. Or they take to the internet, where there appears to be no goddamn consequences or follow up to online harassment.</div>
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THERE NEEDS TO BE SERIOUS, LEGAL CONSEQUENCES FOR BULLIES. If this were adults tormenting each other with hurled insults, stalking and threatening emails, it would be taken slightly more seriously.</div>
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Our justice system is warped. Victims are being further victimized.</div>
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When I was 15 and trusted an older guy who seemed to like and accept me, I was victimized. I even went to trial. I sat on the stand and had to detail every last humiliating detail.</div>
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He got 3 months of house arrest, and the local paper cut me to shreds.</div>
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I am so sorry you had to endure this hatred, this evil, Amanda Todd. I wish that you didn't take your own life, as do the GOOD people of Port Coquitlam, Coquitlam, Port Moody, Burnaby, Vancouver, and the rest of the people who have a heart and a soul in this world.</div>
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I hope that you may rest in peace finally, since there is no way for us to help you now. I wish we could get you back and help you escape it and make the bad guys pay for all they have done. I hope that something, anything, positive can come of this, since we can't get you back, but the world has noticed how insane things were allowed to get, with nothing being done.</div>
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Ranjith Kapugehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04068948728783359004noreply@blogger.com0Colombo, Sri Lanka6.9270786 79.8612436.8640276 79.782279 6.9901295999999995 79.940207tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4404775818378791685.post-80904619069176575942012-10-27T12:03:00.001+05:302012-10-27T12:03:50.657+05:30Everyday Deal Breakers <a href="http://life.dailymirror.lk/images/stories/deal%20breakers%20%201.jpg"><img border="0" height="213" src="http://life.dailymirror.lk/images/stories/deal%20breakers%20%201.jpg" width="320" /></a><br /><br />Relationships are a fine balance of attraction and comfort, a time tested formula that helps us achieve what we must in lie with the support of who we love.<br /> <br />Like any finely balanced scale it only takes too little of one or too much of another to send the balances crashing. Relationships are the same requiring a continuous balance to keep the fires lit.<br /> <br />In popular use the little and not so little factors that amount to the downfall of a relationship are termed to be deal breakers, a good choice of words considering that most of what is grouped as a deal breaker essentially breaks the deal and douses all fires.<br /> <br />Promiscuity<br /> <br /><img height="320" src="http://life.dailymirror.lk/images/stories/deal%20breakers%20%202.jpg" width="320" /><br /> <br /> <br />The biggest issue that couples face specially in the case of newly hitched couples is that one partner is a little too promiscuous for the other’s liking. The reason I said one of the partners, is that most sane individuals with an affinity towards flirting wouldn’t be quite as insecure about their partner being a little flirtatious.<br /> <br />But bear in mind that human psyches are not designed to tolerate promiscuity in relationships. The age old evolutionary insight offered to us by our hard wiring is that competition is a sure fire way to be denied of producing our offspring.<br /> <br />Promiscuity is frowned upon in relationships and even in initial dating phases with women complaining about men who can’t keep their eyes in one place, and men using much more derogatory words to describe women to can’t keep their eyes the same way. <br />Bottom Priority <br /> <br /><img height="213" src="http://life.dailymirror.lk/images/stories/casual%20sex%20etiquette%201.jpg" width="320" /><br /> <br /> <br />Having exclusive priority in a social setting is a fairly difficult task that is a little too demanding for any of us, but many individuals expect that their partners will direct the larger part of their attention towards them when they are out in public as a couple.<br /> <br />Not to say that either partner should feel inhibited within a relationship, but no one wants to be sitting alone at a romantic dinner for two while their partner chats up old friends and colleagues. The same applies to overuse of phones and other digital media during a date<br /><br />Liar Liar<br /> <br /><img src="http://life.dailymirror.lk/images/stories/liar%202.jpg" /><br /> <br /> <br />Lying is one of the most feared and warned against traits when choosing a potential lover, not only is lying fundamentally wrong it also creates and leaves a lot of havoc in its wake.<br /> <br />Compulsive lying is an unattractive attribute even in the case of individuals who exaggerate to add effect; no one wants to hear a story knowing they’re not getting the truth.<br /><br />Poor Grooming<br /><br /><img height="320" src="http://life.dailymirror.lk/images/stories/guy%20shaving.jpg" width="213" /><br /> <br />Cleanliness and hygiene are mandates in a relationship that is intimate in nature. Some individuals may expect higher levels of hygiene when pitted against others, but the underlying rationale is the same, proper hygiene habits are compulsory.<br /> <br />It really will pay off to make an extra effort in the hygiene department when your partner is present.<br /><br />Condescension<br /> <br /><img src="http://life.dailymirror.lk/images/stories/dating%20the%20crazies%201.jpg" /><br /> <br /> <br />Even though certain aspects of seducing a woman requires that you play a game of push and pull, no woman nor man wants to be in a relationship with a partner who criticizes and condescends on them.<br /> <br />Leave the criticism for when you engage in mind games, don’t ever make it personal nor make a habit of it. A supportive partner is the least that anyone could ask for being as it is that none of us are perfect and no one likes a narcissist. <br /><br />Abuse<br /> <br /><img height="240" src="http://life.dailymirror.lk/images/stories/breakup2.jpg" width="320" /><br /><br />Not just physical violence but emotional and verbal abuse are both included in this list. Fighting is an essential part of building comfort in a relationship, and most all relationships have some fight or another.<br /> <br />Knowing when to draw the all so important line between abuse and an everyday quarrel is up to you. It’s also noteworthy that thresholds vary from individual to individual and culture to culture. <br /> <br />By Dilshan Seneratne - dailymirror.lkRanjith Kapugehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04068948728783359004noreply@blogger.com0Colombo, Sri Lanka6.9270786 79.8612436.4223146 79.229529 7.4318425999999995 80.492957tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4404775818378791685.post-86713565311945869012012-10-27T07:47:00.000+05:302012-10-27T07:47:34.232+05:30One-upmanship Short story<div style="text-align: justify;">
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The Perera couple were verily on tenterhooks for the past few days as their son living abroad had announced his arrival home with his fiancée. Though it looked odd for a girl to visit her future partner’s home prior to a visit by her parents, all those customs were already sunk in the new expatriate culture and the huge material wealth it entailed.</div>
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‘She appears to be some girl’ Prema told her husband with a little sarcasm too in her tone. ‘How dare she propose such a visit to Raja?"</div>
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‘Girls are like that now-a-days. We should not be upset by such behaviour.’ Kumara, rejoined trying to assuage his wife’s discomfiture.</div>
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‘How ridiculous I’ Prema exclaimed heedless of Kumara’s pacifying words. ‘In olden days it was the man’s side who go to visit the girl’s house to see if they are suitable. See how it is now.’</div>
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Prema fell into some reverie and then changed her mood from depreviation to reconciliation. ‘She must be this forceful because of the big salary she is getting. One lakh no..’ and also added after a little pause: ‘The pantry and the floor-tiling has to be done quickly. Any ordinary house has them now.’<a name='more'></a></div>
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‘That’s OK. They will come and start’ work tomorrow. They promised to finish it within a week’. Kumara assured his wife about the small contract he had given to a team of masons for the renovation work.</div>
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‘Yes.. yes.. we must not be second to them in any thing’. Prema retorted with a firm determination.</div>
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‘How come.. we are not in any way second to them.. I was a director and he is just a businessman..’ Kumara stressed his professional capacity against the girl’s father.</div>
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‘But don’t say you are only a director.. say that you were a secretary as well.. you acted as one for several months.. no..’ Prema was insistent on putting down their foot on the levels of status between the two families.</div>
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‘No.. no.. that’s not done. They will find the truth some day and I don’t want to be an imposter. They will know in time to come my capacity and all that. After all I was just the co-coordinating secretary to my boss.’</div>
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‘But.. but they keep them as a second or even a third car. People with status now have brand new big cars. Even Nisha’s father will have such new cars. They will some day come here in one of them..’ Prema’s case was an insurmountable one for Kumara.</div>
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‘How is the work going on amma... is everything OK?’</div>
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‘Yes, putha.. nearly so.. another two days and everything will be OK..’</div>
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‘That’s fine, amma.. please get it done properly.. you know I can’t let her down.. no..’</div>
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"But anyway don’t take anything seriously, Raja.. why should we after all..? If she likes you..’ Prema could not complete her statement before he broke in.</div>
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‘No.. amma she is a good girl. Her only weakness is that she is a bit worried about our family status. Her father is a leading businessman and the elder brother is a doctor in UK. That’s why I must not let her down.’</div>
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‘Because a trained teacher is a better teacher professionally as she is better trained than a graduate who is superior in only subject knowledge’</div>
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‘But they are better paid, aren’t they?’</div>
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I can help you get one.. I am in the owners’ club..’ Kumara rejoined as they walked towards the house, Gamini even walking a few steps backwards with his eyes glued on the car, while Raja raised his arm to wave back to Nisha who was waving at them from the balcony with a broad smile on her face.</div>
Ranjith Kapugehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04068948728783359004noreply@blogger.com0Colombo, Sri Lanka6.9270786 79.8612436.8640276 79.782279 6.9901295999999995 79.940207